If you will excuse me, I feel the need to rant. Just a bit.
I have been thinking about a conversation I had recently with a colleague (a married male), who said something to the effect of, "You know, Marie, I just don't understand. You're cool and cute and seem pretty with it. You are an amazing woman. How are you not dating?" My response, after a laugh, was, "Thanks. But that shows the difference between the two of us. I know lots of amazing, single women."
This is a topic I've thought about a lot (having done the single scene for quite a few years), but I suppose my frustration level has been higher than normal lately. I do not think that men are horrible and detestable and should be thrown into fiery pits. I know way too many good men to say that. I'm just frustrated that the numbers seem so out of balance.
Why are there always so many great gals and not so many great fellows? I observe my friends and see the good they are putting out into the world, and it makes my heart ache that they don't have all the things they hope for, like a husband and kids. Are they completely miserable without those things? No, of course not. But why, why is it so difficult for them to find a man just as amazing as they are, so that they can have those things if they choose?
I grew up in a house where I was told time and again that life isn't fair. I have experienced that enough to know it's true, but it still makes me sad for my wonderful, intelligent, giving, funny, loving, beautiful friends. They deserve so much more.
Okay. Done.
Friday, July 18, 2008
A brief rant
Rambled by Miss M at 7/18/2008
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3 comments:
I agree with everything you say. It's hard to see such amazing women who are doing everything right and more, not getting or receiving the desires of their heart.
Lately, whenever someone asks about my dating life I tell them that I'm waiting for Alvin Smith. He was so cute in the "Joseph Smith" movie and then he dies without ever getting married. You can't tell me that he won't be blessed with a wonderful wife in the life to come. And then there are all of those wonderful soldiers who died protecting their country who never married. So, to all those wonderful women out there I know that there is some wonderful man to complement them, either in this life or the life to come.
(Really and truly I'm ok with waiting for Alvin!)
Hi Marie, this is Gioey, Kristin's sis-in-law. I've been lurking for a while, I think you're incredibly witty. When I read this post I had to comment- you totally hit the nail on the head! When I was in grad school (and still today, years into their careers) I had tons of amazing female friends who faced this exact issue. I think 75% of LDS women turn out phemonmenally and only like 40% of LDS men do. And it seems like a lot of that 40% of men marry the 25% of women who aren't high achievers. Someone needs to address this before we end up like a backwards China- lots of accomplished women with just a few good men to go around.
Gioey, thanks for "lurking" around the blog. I'll admit I do the same to yours.
And thanks for the comment since it helps me to know that I'm not the only one noticing the imbalance.
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